Keeping it sexy

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Even if you are lucky enough to have a long-term relationship with the love of your life, things may have declined in the bedroom after the one-year point. Not to worry, it’s a natural tragedy that can be fixed by a few simple adjustments.

At this age, to say you are in a long-term relationship, locally or long distance is something to brag about. There is absolutely nothing better than being head over heels in love. Secretly though, you may be hiding insecurities about the lack of activity in the bedroom. It’s not your fault or your partners. Over time things can easily fizzle out.

Reading about how to get the fire started again is only part of revving things back up in the bedroom. The solution starts with you and your sexual confidence to go to places you haven’t gone before.

With long-term relationships, starting with a make out session, then foreplay, then having sex, becomes second nature under the sheets.  Adding something to tease your partner can always make getting into bed an adventure. Let your partner know where to meet you when they get home from class and welcome them home with a strip tease.

This is where your sexual confidence comes in. Being in a relationship with someone that loves you for who you are is the perfect time to put yourself out there. You don’t need to get serious. Lure them into the bedroom with something funny that can lead to more intimate activities later.

Getting ice, silk undies, or even whipped cream involved are also great options. Use sensations to really get the libido to skyrocket through the roof.

Another great way to bring back the spice in the bedroom is to go on an old-fashioned date to remind you and your partner about how crazy you are about each other.  Be romantic. Buy flowers, dress up, eat a luxurious dinner and stare into your partner’s eyes. It may seem corny, but that butterfly feeling will come back without hesitation.

There are so many ways to get down and dirty under the covers. New positions, toys, role-playing; pretty much anything can lead to crazy sex as long as you are willing to try it.

The key to finding what works best for you and your partner is to stay to true to the quirks of your relationship. If comedy works best, try tickle fighting your way into an orgasm. Maybe you and your partner love theater. Take it to the next level and play Romeo and Juliet X-rated style.

Forcing anything that doesn’t feel right is just going to lead to an awkward time in bed. Get out of the box, but play into your relationship’s special qualities.

To be honest, naming all the kinky ways to spice things up would be endless.

A little confidence and experimentation and your mind will be as dirty as mine in no time.

Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Hannah Flink at [email protected].