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How short should you trim down there? – Jordyn S, 20
Trimming your pubic hair is just one of those things that comes with adulthood. Depending on your preference, you may or may not want hair down there. Yet your opinion isn’t the only one that matters; your partner’s opinion matters, too.
A woman shaving her pubic hair isn’t a new invention. It supposedly has been going on since the time of ancient Egyptians and Greeks. Through the years, it’s emerged into our culture as a way of making yourself presentable during sex and being hygienic.
However, not everyone wants a partner who keeps her vagina looking like a baby’s bottom. Some partners prefer a little hair down there. I had a friend who would tell me that her boyfriend would ask her not to shave for a few days. He claimed that the bareness on her vagina would make him feel like he was having sex with a 13-year-old.
On the other hand, especially living in Boulder, there are couples that like it all-natural. Some women and men don’t believe in shaving. I don’t like to feel like I’m sleeping with Chewbacca. But that’s what they believe, and everyone has their own opinions when it comes to sex.
Plus, girls aren’t the only ones that need to worry about keeping it clean; boys should, too. When having sex, women prefer a man that doesn’t have excessive hair in their public area. It’s kind of gross and shows that you do not take care of yourself. Shaving shows respect. Just think about it this way: if a girl is going to take time shaving, you can take a few minutes to do it, too.
At the end of the day, it’s your body, so you are able to decide what you want to do with it — just remember that it might not be everyone’s preference.
How do you not feel awkward when talking dirty during sex? – Alex C, 21
There are so many factors that do go into how you feel when talking dirty during sex. How long have you been sleeping with this person? What exactly are you saying to him or her? Do you feel comfortable with them?
Like I said in a previous article, talking dirty can be awful at times. Some people don’t understand that it’s supposed to turn their partner on, like when girls say “do you like this pussy,” or use other vulgar language.
If you are trying to start to feel comfortable talking dirty, it might be smart to start saying little sexual comments during sex. Maybe saying, “Oh, you are so sexy” or “ Wow, you’re so hot,” is a good start. See how your partner reacts to it. Oftentimes, people feel awkward during talking dirty because their partner makes it awkward. Just take it slow and see how he or she likes it. If it’s a success, then start saying more dirty comments in bed.
It’s also important to make sure you feel comfortable with your partner. As I have mentioned before, it’s important to feel at ease with your partner during sex. If you don’t feel comfortable, you may feel that your partner will laugh or make fun of you when you are talking dirty. The best thing to do is to make sure you and your partner are on the same page. Ask them how sexual they are and see how they feel about talking dirty.
If both you and your partner feel the same when it comes to talking dirty, there should be no awkwardness at all. You both will realize what to say that will turn each other on.