Ladies, speak up

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Every woman dreams of finding a man who knows exactly how she wants to be handled in bed.

Truth is every man is that man. You just have to learn to speak up for yourself so he can please you just as much as you please him.

No matter if it is a one-night stand or a long-term relationship, verbal instructions and cues are the best way to have the best sex and to reach your climax. Whether it’s moaning or actual verbal instructions, most men are going to like that you are willing to take control.

Although it may not seem like it, your man wants to please you just as much as you want to please him. Sometimes though, he needs a little direction because, let’s face it ladies, we are incredibly picky and our lady parts can be a little intimidating.

When it comes to oral sex, it may seem awkward to let your man know exactly what you want, but you deserve to have the big O. Tell him what feels good and maybe how to tweak his technique.

When speaking your mind, especially during oral sex, make sure not to communicate like a drill sergeant. That isn’t going to make anything feel good for you and your sack sesh is going to end quickly because your man is going to lose all of his confidence. Give him reassuring moans or words that let him know what he is doing feels good. If it doesn’t, give him positive criticism to make it better. He’ll be happy you did. The more pleased you both are in the sack, the better it’s going to get.

Be the one in the bedroom to bring up new ideas. Never tried the 69 position? Ask your man if he wants to go crazy and try it. Never done the amazing butterfly sex position? Look it up, give it a shot. Especially if you are close with your partner, what’s the worst that can happen? You’ll never know if you don’t try it. In the end, it may be the best decision you have ever made.

Men love women who are willing to take control, even if you go home with someone after a night on the town. If you bring your own twist to the session, you both will have much more fun.

I wouldn’t advise being as aggressive as you would be with a boyfriend, but still make sure your partner knows exactly what you want. Many times, pleasure in the bedroom is measured on whether or not the man hits his peak. In reality, women need that climax also.

Once again, sexual confidence is a must to achieve your voice in bed. Knowing your body is the first step to having your man know his way around your body. Think about where it feels good to be touched. Your neck, ears, and the back of your knees are just a few examples. Know how it feels to really climax.

Practice makes explosive orgasms. Experiment with what you want to experiment with. Remember, your man has a voice too. Let him speak up so you can blow his socks off. Literally.

Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Hannah Flink at [email protected]