The double standard

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Women are stigmatized when they have sex with multiple partners, but men who do the same are put on a pedestal — this is what I call the double standard.

College is the time to make mistakes and explore, for both genders. But unfortunately, the double standard makes it hard for girls to explore their sexual options without judgment.

It’s no secret I am a major advocate for sex and believe it is a major way to find confidence and happiness.

However, it frustrates me to no end that there is prejudice against women with more than one sexual partner. It’s even more infuriating when it comes to guys; the more girls they bang, the better.

It comes down to how our society depicts guys and girls. Girls are seen as fragile and pure. Guys, on the other hand, are seen more as protectors and being sexually dominant. So it’s no surprise that when a girl explores her sexuality, society looks down upon her but when a guy gets it on, it’s seen as natural and acceptable.

Let’s take the number game, for example. Imagine you’ve met a guy whose partner number was up in the double digits, and you’ve also met a girl whose number was the same. Chances are the girl would be seen as dirty, and you would give the guy a few pats on the back for being so lucky.

All I have to say is, really? If a guy and a girl have a sexual attraction and in the words of Jersey Shore, are “DTF,” then what is the big problem here? If there is an abundance of condoms, birth control, and other contraceptives, what on earth could be wrong with a woman chasing a man and doing the dirty?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with safe, consensual sex. Guys, girls — everyone has sexual needs. To be blunt, we are all horny beings. If a girl wants to have multiple partners, just as many guys do, there is no problem, as long as it is safe sex.

In some ways however, girls themselves egg on the stigmatization. If a girl is going to call another girl a slut, the lesson taught in “Mean Girls,” is that all boys will see it as okay to call girls sluts too.

If your friend or even acquaintance has a thing for screwin’, stop judging and let them be. When you judge, everyone else will judge, too. It’s a vicious cycle.

It is in our genes to want to have sex. Don’t be stupid: Use protection and know who you are banging. But, boy or girl, do what you want to do and bang who you want to bang.

Ending the double standard means having more sex. Sex brings more happiness into your life. Thus, the bottom line is: have more sex and be happy.

I don’t see any negativity in that.

Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Hannah Flink at [email protected].