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It’s Valentine’s Day. Why not use it as an excuse to bring up fantasies with a significant other and maybe try experimenting?
Let your mind wander about the love of your life crashing through the door and slamming you against the wall…fantasies. We all have them. Right?
Whether it has to do with a crazy sexy nurse costume, or a barely-there loincloth, anything can happen in your fantasy.
The idea of having sex with another person is enticing to many. It may seem strange and give off the idea that you’re unhappy with your significant other. But rather, you are so happy with them that you want to see another side of them that sometimes only a costume can bring out.
Now, first you have to be comfortable. Walls have to come down and you have to let go of all inhibitions. Discuss your fantasy with your partner, buy the essentials and dim the lights. You’ll be glad you tried it.
With crazy fantasies, the only limits are the ones you and your partner set. Don’t go further than your significant other wants because the fantasy could end as a nightmare.
Always remember to get creative. Not all fantasies include costumes. Keep the lights on. Maybe bring in some handcuffs, or even food can spice things up. Surprises can always take even the steamiest fantasies to the next level.
There are those wild fantasies, but don’t forget about sultry, passionate, romantic fantasies. Make a rose petal path, light candles and put on your finest silk boxers.
Chick flicks have those to-die-for sex scenes where everything seems to go perfectly. Although ideal, making a romantic night perfect is all about bringing in the light-hearted, funny feel. There will be passionate moments when dim lights and candles are involved, but don’t forget when playing out your fantasy to bring a little of your own spice to it.
No matter what your fantasy might be, playing into all five senses is key. Edible underwear and maybe some strawberries and whipped cream can make even the best night better. Scented candles, perfume, crazy fabrics all can enhance the mood. Although easy, these little tips go a long way.
So, after that romantic dinner with your valentine, go home, sit down and open up about your deepest, darkest fantasies and take your sex life to a whole new level. You won’t regret it.
Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Hannah Flink at Hannah.firstname.lastname@example.org.
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